Accidental Passport Bro: How my son named me something I didn't know was

My son named it before I did.I was in my kitchen on a Sunday afternoon when he looked up from his phone and said, with the specific affection of a son who has noticed something about his father the father has not yet noticed about himself: Dad, I think you might be a Passport Bro.I had not heard the term. I did not know there was a subreddit. I knew only that the shape of my life had quietly become unrecognizable to a version of me from five years earlier - that I had been spending more of my time in countries I had not previously been spending time in, meeting women I had not previously been meeting, and that the well-meaning advice I had been given about modern American dating was no longer producing the result the advice had claimed it would produce.This is not a book about how to meet women. It is not a book about why American women are the way they are. It is not a book about which Asian country has the best ratio.This is a book about what happens to a particular kind of middle-aged American man when he discovers that the doors that are not opening for him at home are opening, repeatedly, in places he had not previously thought of as the place he might find a partner. What he does with that discovery. What it costs him. What it gives him. And what he is still trying to figure out.Across fourteen countries in six months - with longer time in Thailand, the Philippines, and China - Accidental Passport Bro reconstructs how an early-fifties man looking for long-term partnership ended up incidentally adjacent to a movement he had never heard of, what he found that the loud voices in that movement get wrong, and what he lost along the way that he is still grieving.The book argues that the real divide in modern romance is not men versus women, or West versus East. It is high-friction cultures versus low-friction ones - every culture sitting somewhere on a curve where economic and social change runs ahead of cultural adjustment, and human connection becomes harder or easier depending on where a culture sits on that curve. International dating is the lens. The subject is modern loneliness and the geography of human connection.Honest about sex without being lurid. Honest about what worked, and honest about the four women the narrator could not keep. Conversant with the manosphere discourse without being captured by it. A first-person account from someone who is not selling a course, a lifestyle, or a destination - only a description of what he found.For readers of Pico Iyer, Paul Theroux, and Anthony Bourdain who have wondered whether an honest book exists inside a category currently dominated by men who are not writing one.

Pagina's: 320, Paperback, Independently published