Behind the Glass: Why Men Become Hard to Reach — and How They Can Find Their Way Back

Somewhere, right now, someone is asking a man how he is.And before he has had time to think, the answer comes: "Yeah. I'm fine."But everyone in the room knows he is not.Behind the Glass is a warm, honest and practical book for men who have learned to carry things alone - and for the partners, children and families who love them but sometimes feel unable to reach them.Written by psychotherapist Nigel S Skinner, this book explores why so many men become emotionally closed, where that pattern comes from, what it costs, and how change can begin without shame, blame or becoming someone else.Drawing on psychotherapy, psychology, family patterns and real-world therapeutic insight, Behind the Glass looks at the biology, upbringing and culture that teach many men to stay composed, capable and silent. It explains why "I'm fine" often becomes an automatic defence, how emotional suppression affects relationships and wellbeing, and why the people who love emotionally closed men often feel as if they are standing on the other side of a pane of glass.But this is not a book that criticises men for being steady, practical or reliable. It begins from a different premise: that those qualities matter - and that they do not have to come at the cost of emotional absence.Across ten reflective chapters, Behind the Glass explores: how men learn to say they are fine when they are not why emotional restraint can feel safer than honesty what emotional silence costs men, partners and children how small honest moments can begin to rebuild connection how fathers can pass on a different emotional inheritance how partners and family members can help without pushingThis is not a clinical manual or a self-improvement programme. It is a grounded, compassionate conversation for men who want to be steady and honest, dependable and known, strong and still fully human.For any man who has ever said "I'm fine" when he was not, Behind the Glass offers a way to begin saying something more true.

Pagina's: 141, Paperback, Independently published