FACE DEATH: A Warriors Guide to Writing Your Death Poem

This book is for those who were raised to be strong and now have to deal with death - grief, aging, mortality - and who reject the soft, talk-it-out approach the existing grief world offers them. Ancient wisdom points us in the right direction. Everyday the samurai lived on the verge of death. It was all around them and they needed tools and the will to face it everyday. Every warrior eventually meets the one opponent he cannot outfight. This is a field manual for that meeting.For centuries, the samurai faced death by writing a jisei - a death poem composed in the final hour, a few plain lines meant to prove that a man could hold his composure even as everything ended. Face Death takes that ancient discipline and puts it back into working hands. Face Death covers many eastern philosophies and incorporates their passed on wisdoms that the modern world has all but forgotten in its hyper focus on materialistic ways.This is a book about dying, and about the grief that dying leaves behind. It is written for the people who carry more of both than most: soldiers, veterans, first responders, contractors, fighters - anyone who has stood close to the end, lost the person beside them, and been told to keep moving. It refuses the easy comforts. It does not promise that time heals or that the dead are in a better place. Instead it offers something harder and more useful: a way to face mortality clear-eyed, and a way to carry loss without being crushed by it.Drawing on the martial traditions of Japan, China and Korea, from Stoic philosophy, and the modern science of grief, Face Death moves through the whole arc of loss - making peace before it comes, carrying the fallen, mourning the deaths the world won't let you mourn, surviving the guilt of outliving others, and finally meeting your own end on your own terms. Along the way it teaches the reader to do what the old warriors did: find the single true image, set it down in a few honest words, and stop.Part meditation, part method, part elegy, this is a book for readers of grief, philosophy, and military memoir alike - for anyone willing to look directly at the thing we spend our lives avoiding. Because the mind that has already faced death has nothing left to fear. Write the line while you still can.