HOW DO I HELP If CAN’T CURE THEM: your child, partner, or parent is addicted, you no longer know whether helping them saving sinking you. Limits, what to say, self-care.

You can't cure them. Carrying on pretending is dragging you down.If your child, your partner or your father is addicted, you no longer know whether helping them is saving them or dragging you down. You've lied out of loyalty. You've given them money knowing full well what it was for. You've kept an eye on their mobile, the front door and their every breath. And a part of you - the part that doesn't dare say it out loud - already knows the truth.This book isn't for the person using drugs. It's for you.What you'll find- What addiction really is: a chronic illness, not a lack of character.- How to talk without lecturing, making empty threats or pleading.- Boundaries that hold: money, home, emotions.- How to stop enabling without stopping loving.- What to do in the first 24 hours of a relapse.- When to seek professional help and how not to overstep the mark.- Violence, manipulation, teenagers, gambling addiction and screens.- Self-care for family members: sleep, support network, permission not to break down.- Templates: crisis plan, statement of boundaries, family contract, diary and weekly review.What this book does not promiseIt will not make them stop using. No book can. It will do something more urgent: give you back the right to set boundaries and not lose yourself whilst waiting for a miracle.Because your recovery does not have to wait for theirs.A support guide for parents, partners, children and friends living with someone who has an addiction. It is not a substitute for professional treatment. If there is immediate danger, call the emergency services.