Love Is Not Enough: One Man's Journey From Poverty to Purpose and Everything Marriage Taught Me Along the Way

Born in Akwatia, Ghana, and raised in a one-room house in Osogbo, Nigeria, Benjamin Ajibade defied his father's limitations, funded his own education by repairing shoes, and built a career spanning four decades that would take him from hawking food on the streets at 4.30am to a professorship at Northumbria University.But alongside that extraordinary professional journey ran another story. A marriage that began with love and ended twenty-five years later with two heart attacks prayed away alone in a bedroom, a pillow picked up in the night, and a quiet walk to freedom that changed everything.This is that story.Honest, warm, and completely unsparing, Love Is Not Enough weaves together one man's personal testimony with his clinical expertise as a mental health nursing academic. It speaks directly to the cultural silence around emotional abuse in African and racially minoritised communities, the religious and community pressures that keep people trapped in harmful marriages, and the particular burden carried by Black men who are expected to be strong, provide everything, and say nothing.It is also a book of hard-won wisdom. About vision alignment as the foundation of any lasting relationship. About why you cannot change anyone who does not choose to change themselves. About red flags as information, not challenges to overcome. And about why love, however real and however deep, is never enough on its own.Written for anyone preparing to marry, anyone already in a relationship that is costing them more than it is giving them, and anyone from a community that calls divorce shameful but says nothing about the slow death of staying.Be wise. Take a step. Do not stay to be killed.

Pagina's: 165, Paperback, Ajibade Academic Publishing