the Long-Distance Designated One: A Survival Guide for Sibling Doing This Work from Another City

You're doing the work from 1,500 miles away. Nobody at your office sees it. Nobody at your parent's grocery store sees it. Most days, you barely see it yourself. This is the book for you. The fourth volume in the bestselling Designated One series - written for the adult sibling coordinating an aging parent's care from another city, another time zone, or another country. Twelve million Americans are doing this work right now. Many millions more around the world - diaspora children managing parents in the home country, immigrant adults whose parents are abroad, internal-migration families across continents. The work is invisible in a particular way that ordinary caregiving is not. The systems most caregiving books describe assume you can be present in twenty minutes. This book is for the version of the work done from time zones away. Inside, you'll learn: - The particular loneliness of long-distance caregiving - and what helps - A four-category inventory of what the distance is actually costing you - How to build a working local team - eyes-on-the-ground, medical advocate, paid help, household, professional coordinator - The surprise visit - why it matters, how to do it well - Weekly cadence scripts for the parent call and the local-sibling call - What to do when the crisis call comes at 3 a.m. your time - Hiring help on the ground you don't personally know - The sibling equity problem - preventing it, and repairing it once it's started - The diaspora and cross-border edition - legal architecture, money transfer, cultural expectation - The real cost - career, marriage, kids, your own self - Whether (and when) to move This book is for you if: - You live in a different city, state, or country from your parent - You're the one your siblings call (or the one nobody calls but who is doing the work anyway) - You've felt the weird guilt of geography and the structural unfairness of distance - You read other books in The Designated One series and want the long-distance edition Written by KV Rao - author of The Designated One series - who has done this work across continents. Practical where most caregiving books are wistful. Candid where most are cautious. You are not the only one. You never were.

Pagina's: 76, Paperback, Independently published