The Missing Move: Why our strengths can work against us — and how to get more of what we need

Why do we keep repeating behaviour that is no longer getting us what we need?You keep analysing a decision, and it keeps getting delayed. You take charge, but somehow have less influence and buy-in. You keep helping, yet feel increasingly taken for granted and invisible. You know something needs to change, but the obvious advice - worry less, let go, set better boundaries, stop trying so hard - is surprisingly difficult to follow.There is often a good reason.Many of the responses that get us stuck grew out of genuine strengths: figuring things out, preparing for the worst, taking charge, making things better, supporting others, excelling.Underneath many of these patterns are three basic psychological needs: Am I ready to decide? Do I have a say? Do I matter?The Missing Move explains why a familiar response can stop giving us what we need while still feeling like the most sensible thing to do - and how one small but crucial response can open another way forward without asking us to give up the strengths that have served us well.You do not need to become a different person. You may just need another move.