When You Fall in Love, Get Up Attached / Quand on tombe amoureux, se relève attaché

"Love doesn't strike at random. This wonderful moment touches only those who are ready." Throughout our lives, we can reawaken the imprint of love that we thought was dormant. Those who have benefited from a secure attachment are the easiest to love, but some are more comfortable with an attachment that's calmer and less feverish than intense love, which can be a source of anxiety. Those who experienced an emotional desert in their childhood tend to believe they're not lovable because they've never been loved; when they are loved, they think they don't deserve it and that they'll be abandoned again. In this case it's difficult to form a bond of attachment. Love is sometimes scary and attachment can be imprisoning. Must we invent new lessons in love to rediscover the pleasure of loving?" - B. C. A major book, moving and profound. Boris Cyrulnik shows off his unique talent for putting what we feel into words."Love doesn't strike at random. This wonderful moment touches only those who are ready."