You Don't Have to Choose: For children who feel caught in the middle

When the grown-ups they love are in conflict, children often end up carrying feelings they don't have words for. They notice the tension. They hear different versions of things. They sense that loving one person might somehow upset another. And they rarely have a safe place to set any of it down.You Don't Have to Choose was written for those children.In spare, gentle language, it speaks to a child caught in the middle of a difficult adult situation, whether that's a separation, a divorce, or simply a home where the people they love no longer agree. It offers no lecture and no lesson. It takes no side and assigns no blame. It never asks a child to choose, to explain, or to understand more than they are ready to.Instead, it offers relief. Page by page, it reflects back the quiet, confusing feelings so many of these children carry, and reassures them that those feelings make sense, that loving more than one person is allowed, and that none of this is theirs to fix.Written to be safe in anyone's hands, You Don't Have to Choose is a thoughtful resource for parents, grandparents, relatives, counselors, therapists, and family law professionals who want to give a child something steadying. It includes a brief note on its purpose and a reminder that children in distress may benefit from the support of a trusted adult or a licensed professional.For the children who didn't choose this.